Correction: Healing/Hurting

Mofe, a primary 6 student in Lagos state was having issues with her academics. She struggled to take second to the last position every term.

Her mum consistently screamed, abused and beat her anytime she brought her report card home.

The more she abused Mofe and compared her to others, the more she failed in her studies. 
Mofe’s mum out of anger stated severally that she is not good at anything. She termed her a dull child.

This statement and others affected Mofe to a point that she became withdrawn, had issues with self-esteem and she grew worse when she got into secondary .

She became nonchalant and unwilling to improve in her studies in secondary school because of the statements the mum has made to her over the years.

After series of counsel Mofe opened up and explained how she is discouraged and afraid of the future because of the statements the mum had made to her from childhood.

This teenager was suffering from fear of the unknown and poor performance because her parent didn’t properly handle her challenges in academics.

Words are powerful indeed, they have the power to accelerate or decelerate a child.

As a parent/guardian, you don’t have to abuse a child to correct him/her.
You don’t need to inflict injurious wounds on a child all in the name of correction/discipline.

I have seen very strict parents/guardians whom their children hide from a distance when they see them coming, yet the same children are very stubborn with all the strictness.

The children pretend to be good in their presence just to please them, but they are very terrible when the parents/guardians are not available.

At the long run they grow into terrible characters if not helped.

Disciplining a child is not in the amount of abuse or beating mercilessly. As a matter of fact, this approach never works successfully; it hardly brings the result you desire.

It always leaves the child/teen worse and pushes them into some weird attitude.

Ben Carson’s mum didn’t join the crowd to call her son a dummy nor did she abuse him or constantly remind him of how he failed.

She took her time to groom him and she was patient and positive in her approach.

Her approach yielded positive results . Today Ben Carson is a renowned surgeon.

Dear Parent/guardian instead of joining others to devalue that child/teenager, please help them to become better

Find a better approach to accelerate that child to excellence. Always apply a wise approach in correcting children to get positive results.

Effective correction brings successful results in the life of the child/teenager